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What would you say?

Thursday, November 2nd, 2006

Every so often I find myself in the role of token male having to explain things to female colleagues that I just really don’t want to have to explain to anyone.  Ever.

For example, I got this message from Natalie this afternoon.  I love Natalie dearly – if I had a fag hag, it would be her (although she’s not really a fag hag, and we don’t have the sort of weird relationship that goes with it — although people do mistake us for a married couple right up until I open my mouth and say something gay sounding, which generally doesn’t take long).  But I still found myself squirming in my seat over this one:

—— Forwarded Message
From: Natalie  <natalie@domain>
Date: Thu, 2 Nov 2006 13:56:13 -0600
To: <chris@domain>
Subject: Fwd: Yahoo! News Story – New weapon in battle of the bulge… – Yahoo! News

I totally echo Jennifer’s comments from below.  Chris, maybe you can
explain it?

>
>Jennifer (jennifer@domain) has sent you a news article.
>————————————————————
>Personal message:
>
>I understand why a woman might need to “lift and separate,” but what
>exactly is a man “separating?”  I’m frightened!
>
>New weapon in battle of the bulge… – Yahoo! News
>============================================================
>http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20061102/od_nm/australia_underwear_dc
>
New weapon in battle of the bulge…
Thu Nov 2, 7:31 AM ET

Size really does count, just ask Australian underwear maker AussieBum which has just launched the “Wonderjock” for men who want to look bigger.

Since the launch seven days ago, AussieBum says it has sold 50,000 pairs of “Wonderjock,” mostly on its Web site www.aussiebum.com and a handful of stores around the world.

“The design of the underwear, separates and lifts. The fabric cup protrudes everything out in front instead of down toward the ground,” said “Wonderjock” designer Sean Ashby.

“There is no padding, rings or strings,” said Ashby, a co-founder of the Internet-based AussieBum firm.

Ashby said the idea for the “Wonderjock” was the result of online feedback from customers who expressed an interest in looking bigger, just like women using the “Wonderbra.”

“When you go to a department store to buy underwear you usually get a grandmother serving, which is not the ideal way to get feedback,” said Ashby. “Our customers give us feedback. We didn’t realize that big is better.”

Seriously — how would you respond to this message?

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Random Round-up

Wednesday, October 18th, 2006

I’ve been feeling uninspired to write anything recently. I could write about politics, but everyone writes about politics. I could write about Kim Jong-Il, but he’s crazy (sorry, he’s a non-rational actor) and everyone’s talking about North Korea (and not enough people are talking about how we can’t take North Korea on because we’re overextended elsewhere … oops, did I say that?).

I’m not giving Mark Foley another thought. There comes a point in your life when claiming that you were abused by a priest in no way makes up for discussing penis size with one of your 16 year old pages. (Check it out over at Towleroad if you haven’t seen the unedited version of that little bit of correspondence…) He’s now a disgrace to gays and people who were molested as children.
What’s a blogger to do when faced with being a Writer’s Blockhead?

Time for another random round-up. (For the record, I don’t know anyone who uses the term ’round-up’. This is Texas, but I grew up in Ohio, and I’m doing it for the alliteration.)

What the hell is up with the Argentine death cult?

If you’ve seen Evita (and don’t deny it — even I’ve seen Evita, and I’m not that big a fan of Madonna) you’re probably aware that the Argentines sure do love their Peróns. In fact, they’re moving Juan Perón to a big new $1.1 million crypt away from the center of Buenos Aires where he can rest in peace … until the next time they decide to dig him up and move him around. Juan Perón died in 1974. Just so we’re all clear on this. Loyal Perónists want to move his beloved wife (Eva, not Isabel, and certainly not his first wife whose name no one seems to know) to be out there with him. Evita’s family seems to think she’s been through enough already (what with her body having been moved to Italy under an assumed name for a few decades), and would like her to stay where she is, in the family crypt.

I suppose that the title that I just gave this section might be a little misleading — the Argentines don’t have a death cult so much as a slightly bizarre (to the outside observer) obsession with two dead people. Someone was so obsessed with Juan’s corpse that they broke into his crypt in the late 1980s and stole his hands. WTF? We have some pretty revered folks in our history, too, and as far as I am aware, George Washington, Abe Lincoln, and Ben Franklin still have their hands. What on earth would possess someone to decide that their life wouldn’t be complete unless they owned Juan Perón’s hands? I mean: ewwww.

All I’m saying here is: let the poor couple rest in peace. Haven’t they been moved about enough? Or do we need to do it one more time, just for old time’s sake?

On Tony Blair and the Veil

British Prime Minister Tony Blair has an opinion on Muslim women’s fashion. This may surprise many of you, as it did me, given that I was previously unaware of Blair’s academic background either in Women’s and Gender Studies or in Islamic Studies, but since he has issued an opinion, I guess I must be wrong. After all, no political leader would stand up and make an assertation that they weren’t qualified to make, would they?
At the heart of Blair’s newly revealed talents is a national debate raging in Britain about the Muslim population and the alienation and ostracization that’s been taking place since the July 11, 2005 bombings (which, as you will recall, were carried out by members of the British Muslim community). There’s a lot of talk about the need to integrate and assimilate the Muslim community into the greater population and society (resistance is futile), which can be a good thing, so long as Britain (and other western nations) realize that this is a two-way street–the host populations are often just as unwilling to assimilate the newcomers as the newcomers are to be assimilated.

However, as is usual with debates like this that become highly politicized, the national dialogue appears to have run off the road and into a tree. At the center of this particular tangent is the niqab, the full face veil with the slit for the eyes that ultra-conservative women wear in the Middle East and some other Islamic countries. A couple of weeks ago, Jack Straw, ex-Foreign Minister and now leader of the House of Commons, said that Muslim women visiting his office need to remove their veils. A teaching assistant in northern England has been suspended for refusing to remove her veil while she works because it ‘impedes her ability to perform her job.’ I’ve seen women in grocery stores in Saudi Arabia juggle three children and a useless husband all while wearing a niqab, but I suppose that’s different.

Check this out:

And any woman who prays or proclaims God’s message in public worship with nothing on her head disgraces her husband; there is no difference between her and a woman whose head has been shaved. If the woman does not cover her heard, she might as well cut her hair. And since it is a shameful thing for a woman to shave her head or cut her hair, she should cover her head.

That’s not from the Qur’an, by the way. (I have the source here in invisi-text: 1 Corinthians 11:5)

I get the idea behind a veil being some sort of symbol of respect for a higher power. I also happen to find the niqab a little creepy, and I’m all for fewer women wearing them as a general rule of thumb. (Of course, I also happen to be gay and am not treating the women in question like a sex object, which is the whole raison d’etre for the thing in the first place.)

The following quote from Dr. Blair is what gets me:

People want to know that the Muslim community in particular but actually all minority communities have got the balance right between integration and multiculturalism … when people do integrate more, they achieve more as well. There is a reason why minority communities that have integrated well then end up doing better, achieving more, attaining more.

The question here is this: how does a government ‘encourage’ integration without doing something like legislating which languages we speak at home? Or passing a national dress code? Or — wait for it — regulating public and private behaviors?  If we start down this road, where does it end?  And does anyone else see how this could easily become an issue for other communities than British Muslims?
As Chandler Bing once said: Can–open.  Worms–everwhere.

I raise the question because there are no easy answers.  I don’t have the answer.  I recognize there’s an issue that needs resolving, and I am happy to stand here and say: this is a tough one. I don’t know what the answer is.
And you, my friends, would do well to mistrust any politician who tries to tell you otherwise.

Make it Work

Thursday, September 14th, 2006

I was bored by last night’s installment of Project Runway. I haven’t listened to this week’s Tim’s Take, so he might lend some insight into what was, otherwise, a fairly uninteresting episode.

Nick Verreos (from Season 2) basically sums it all up on his blog for People online.

This week, Heidi’s attempt at being mysterious (via script) was explained: every week she’s been forced in to saying that “Winning has its advantages.” Turns out that what this means is that the two contestants who had won challenges but had been eliminated were brought back to get one more chance — with the proviso that if they didn’t win the challenge, they got thrown back on the pile with Laura’s new baby.

The two returnees are Vincent and Angela, which means that there’s no suspense because we all know that the only reason either of them won is because they signed some sort of pact with Satan. (Well, Vincent must have – Angela won by team effort, which Laura has no problem reminding her as often as possible.)

The challenge is to design a black and white cocktail dress. The episode is so-bloody-predictable:

  1. Is Jeffrey pissed that Angela is back, and does he take every opportunity to talk about her behind her back? check.
  2. Does Vincent go on at length about how great he is and how he’s so much better than everyone else? check.
  3. Does Jeffrey do the exact same thing, even though the dress he designs look like it should be worn by a prostitute who thinks she’s being classy when she just looks like a lower-middle-range hooker? check.
  4. Does Laura have her promised emotional breakdown? check. Though significantly less interesting than it seemed in the promos. Mad Mommy’s self-confidence was shaken to its core by her near loss in the previous challenge – as it should have been – but probably also influenced just a wee bit by the raging hormones in her system from whatever alien mutant baby is growing in her rapidly expanding belly (she’s only three months pregnant? I-don’t-think-so….)
  5. Do Vincent and Angela go out as fast as they came back into our lives, having designed the two ugliest dresses on the runway? check.
  6. Does Kayne design something completely over the top that lands him toward the bottom? check. And this time, it costs him the competition, and he gets Auf’ed.

And that’s about it for Project Runway. We’re down to the final four, and the only real question is who’s going home next week: Laura, who designs for matronly women? Or Uli, who designs for rich hippies who live in Miami?

Stay tuned …

Like, and stuff.

Wednesday, September 13th, 2006

Today was the Study Abroad Fair at work, and like a good little shepherd I went down there to hawk my wares since we do have a new program to announce for next summer. (Coming next year: Morocco and Sicily 2007)

I think I’ve forgotten repressed what last year’s event was like, because I did have slight flashbacks of it as I stood in the heat, wilting like a dying flower.

A lot of the students who come to the fair are trolling: they wander by and pick up everything they can get their hands on (Adam stopped by for a bit and asked in the most incredulous way: “Do any of them actually ask questions??”) It will wind up in a big pile on their desk, dresser, or dorm room floor, and at some point they may actually look at the first two or three items before the rest of the stuff winds up in the trash. These students will not read the three page, black and white photocopy that I provided them because it is not glitzy, glamorous, and printed on recycled paper. I mentioned to both Samer and Adam (next year’s leaders) that all of our advertising next year must include photographs of students partying and bare-breasted native women. Boobs and beer, that’s how to get them into your booth.

One of the staffers from European Studies — she was across the aisle from me, and we made faces at each other most of the day — would periodically compare notes with me to establish which one of us got the more ridiculous question. Among some of the winners:

  • “Do you have programs specifically for Electrical Engineering students?” (No: all of our programs are open to students from all majors, but we’re a Liberal Arts program that has not, at any point in its history, had any students double major with Electrical Engineering, so it wasn’t high up on the priority list).
  • “If I study abroad, do you know if I can take physics classes?” (I guess? But more importantly, is comparative physics a big topic? Do they teach different physics in the Middle East than they do here?)
  • Do you offer any American Studies courses? (Well, we’re the Middle Eastern Studies department, so … have you tried the Center for American Studies? The name kinda gives it away … )

However, it was agreed by late in the afternoon that I had the ultimate winner. One of the students trundled up to me and said: “So, I’m, like, interested in studying the Middle East and stuff.” Oh, dear.

But I’m home now. The sun is shining, Ray is mowing the lawn, and the dog wants to go for a walk. And my vacation starts in two days …

So. Much. Drama.

Thursday, August 24th, 2006

It’s Thursday morning, meaning that it is time for the Project Runway re-cap.

Around the office this morning, no one can believe that Vincent won last night’s challenge.  Of course Vincent won last night’s challenge.  Everything he makes looks like it was designed for a German senior citizen.  But I’m getting ahead of myself.
This week, I missed the first few minutes of the episode because we were catching up on the season finale of Work Out (speaking of SO MUCH DRAMA!!!).  While it’s entirely possible that Heidi said or did something cute (and scripted) in the three minutes I missed, I’m not going to lose sleep over it.

The challenge this week was that each of the designers had to design an outfit for one of the other designers’ mother or sister.  Due to one of those cruel tricks of fate (or, more probably, the producers), Jeffrey The Scary Narcissist got stuck with Angela Who Never Took Enough Drugs to be a Flower Child’s mother as his model.  Angela and Jeffrey are the two least popular designers on the show – she’s a total space cadet whose idea of accesorizing is adding little flowery buttons to everything, and he’s a … well, he’s a scary narcissist who makes boosts his self esteem by talking shit about everyone else.  He rubs everyone the wrong way, and everyone is just afraid they’ll get stuck working with her in a group challenge.

The whole group shuffles off to Tavern on the Green to meet this week’s celebrity guest judge and … oh my God, it’s DEATH!  I mean, it’s Michael Kors’ mother Joanne, who sounds like she’s never met a cigarette she didn’t like.

Then the fun begins with designers and models talking about their ideas.  You can tell right off the bat that Jeffrey and Angela’s mom are going to be fun together: she’s telling him what she wants, and he’s telling her that she’s stupid and has no idea what looks good.  You know, real bonding moments.

The rest of the episode goes fairly predictably: Angela’s mom is brought to tears by Jeffrey – she doesn’t like the color or the style of the dress he’s made for her, and his response is to tell her that the dress is fine – she just doesn’t have any taste (or something to that effect).  She goes off to the break room and starts to bawl and the entire cast of designers and models (save Jeffrey, natch) are off consoling her, and it’s a little voyeuristic.  The whole thing is like a train wreck: you can’t stop watching!  Here’s this sweet woman from Amesville, Ohio having a breakdown on national TV and I’m watching like I’m a dirty old man at a Britney Spears concert.  This is what Project Runway does to me…

As previously mentioned, Vincent — of all people — wins for making Uli’s mother look hip.  Of course, for all of his snippy comments about “Well, these young people can’t design for full figured women.  It’s just insulting – that’s who real customers are,” Vincent himself wound up with a model who’s still a size 2.

Robert loses for a dress that was boring – and he’s been boring too many times.  The man designs for Barbie, for God’s sake – there’s not a lot of room for detail on Barbie!  We’ll miss Robert, but not as much as Jeffrey, apparently, who is shown crying over Robert’s departure.  Earlier in the show, Jeffrey had made a nasty comment to the effect of “Well, I actually put thought into my dress.  I didn’t just cut a hole in a sheet and call it a poncho” — an obvious reference to Robert’s dress for Vincent’s way-beyond-zaftig sister, and then he’s sitting there crying to his mommy that “So many of them aren’t good people, but Robert’s a good person.”  What he means is “Robert’s the only one who still speaks to me.”

Ugh.

Next week, it looks like Angela is still pissed about Jeffrey insulting her mother.  I’d love to see a catfight between those two – the slapping would get real intense, I’ll bet.

 

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